As I was thinking about some things I’ve recently experienced and observed, I was compelled to write the following little poem.

Reflections from A Maiden’s Heart

It’s true my heart is fixed on Christ,
but as on earth I dwell
I cannot help but look around
for one who’d suit me well.

A man of God who loves His Word
and seeks Him every day
is what I watch for most of all
in men that pass my way.

A purpose and a calling
that’s worth a lifetime spent
would beckon me to leave what’s mine
and go wherever he’s sent.

Though I confess my heart may leap
at charming words and attention,
true honor is reserved for those
whose goal is my protection.

While I may never notice
all the little things they do,
the heart of a true gentleman
is always shining through.

Every man bears differently
the image of God in his life,
but true and pure his way must be
if he wants a godly wife.

post Category: Giveaways,Personal post Comments (2) postMay 16, 2011

Today marks the seven year anniversary of the tragic car accident of our dear friends, the Strain’s. I’ve been reading the book, The Quest for Meekness and Quietness of Spirit by Matthew Henry the last several days and can’t help but be reminded of Cathy. In my mind, she epitomizes a woman who was adorned with “the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious” 1 Peter 3:4. The example she set as a godly woman, wife, mother, and friend, will inspire me the rest of my life.

Jed will always have a special place in my heart as well. Even though the Lord took him home just before his 13th birthday, he left a legacy that will be long remembered. Mature beyond his years, Jed was a model of respect and responsibility. I observed this often in our conversations, the many hours spent with their family, and throughout the years he took piano lessons from me.

In honor of Cathy and Jed, I’ve decided to make chapter 18 of my book (Pajama School), Tragedy Strikes Close to Home, available as a free download for anyone who is interested in reading more about Cathy and Jed and the events surrounding their homegoing seven years ago. I hope that it will be an inspiration and blessing to you!

post Category: Personal,Thought Provoking post Comments (4) postApril 14, 2011

Today I am healthy in body and mind.
Today I live in a free country full of opportunity.
Today I have the conveniences of modern technology.
Today I have finances and resources at my disposal.
Today I am surrounded by loving family and friends.
Today is the day God has given me to serve Him.
Today must not be wasted.

“You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart.”
~Deuteronomy 6:5-6

One of our Adventures In Character (AIC) staff members this year, Lauren Dunn, has been putting together a bi-weekly newsletter that is sent to our mailing list of current and potential helpers. In the most recent issue she wrote an article titled, Of Proverbs and Monkeys, that I just love! It is full of insight, humor, and inspiration for anyone who works with children. She gave me permission to repost it here. Enjoy!

It was my second year as a teacher in Adventures in Character. I was excited – I had looked forward to this weekend for months! Finally, the children arrived for the Friday welcome session. My fellow teacher and I were busy putting names to faces in the semi-hectic get-to-know-you session. We started playing the game where each child names their favorite animal. The next child has to name their favorite animal and the favorite animal of the person before them, and so on.

The kids were going down the line, naming their favorite animals. My fellow teacher and I, naively pleased with our early success, listened with interest as the favorites were named: “Dog,” “horse,” “bear,” – all the usuals. It was going great. It continued normally until there was an unexpected twist: “Cat,” “elephant,” “southern douroucouli.” The game suddenly stopped. The next child just looked at me, waiting for my input. “What?” I asked the young boy, Matthew, who had blurted out the unfamiliar animal. “Southern douroucouli,” he cheerfully repeated. “It’s a monkey.” It was then that I knew this would be a memorable year.

We got through the game – but with difficulty. Most of the kids couldn’t remember how to pronounce Matthew’s favorite animal, and Matthew wouldn’t take “monkey” as an acceptable alternative. Matthew was not at all a difficult student, but definitely a busy one. Energetic and excited. Very excited. About five times that afternoon, Matthew asked about food. He wasn’t convinced that he’d make it to dinner, but I assured him he would.

Whatever activity we did, Matthew participated with gusto. It was certainly a fast-paced afternoon. Soon it was time for the last drama session before dinner break. We were sitting in the front row, and Matthew was sitting next to me. Now, all students love the drama, but it was an especially aerobic activity for Matthew. He was fully involved in the story, yelling out warnings to the characters who didn’t seem to notice the bad guys or their plots. His enthusiasm was cute (and contagious).

All too soon, the drama ended, with the usual suspense. It was time for dinner, and I thought Matthew would be ecstatic. This was the moment he’d waited for all afternoon: food. But, to my surprise, Matthew let out a groan of disappointment. The drama was too captivating. He was having too much fun. He didn’t want to leave – not even for food.

“Give me your heart, my son,” Solomon counseled his son (Proverbs 23:26). While this is written from a father to a child, and is first and foremost about parenting, it is also a testimony of what it means to teach. Teaching is not all about sitting, raising your hand, and being quiet while only the teacher talks (although all of that is needed at some point). For Matthew, sitting quietly and listening could be quite difficult. But as soon as something had his interest, he was a sharp student.

When teaching, the important thing isn’t that all the kids are as quiet as mice and sitting perfectly still. Learning takes place when their hearts are reached. Get down on their level. Let them ask questions and have dialogue with you. Tell a story, play a game – anything to make a specific principle stand out in their memory. They may not remember Point #4, but they’ll remember a richly described story or a  particularly hilarious game. That is teaching success: a heart reached.

Like I said, Matthew had trouble with quietness and stillness. But he was a sponge. He drank in everything that was given to him once it was given to him in a way where his interest was captivated. Many kids are a lot like Matthew. They may not know what a southern douroucouli is, but they know a caring teacher when they see one.

Rachel Starr Thomson, homeschool grad and author of numerous books, has been tackling this question on her blog. I have been incredibly inspired and challenged by her thoughtful and practical advice on this topic. If you are interested in improving your writing skills, or learning how to help your students or children improve their writing skills, I highly recommend checking out the posts in the series thus far:

When Is Your Writing Good Enough, Part 1 – Introduction

When Is Your Writing Good Enough, Part 2 – Train Your Ear

When Is Your Writing Good Enough, Part 3 – Get an Education

When Is Your Writing Good Enough, Part 4 – What Other People Say

If you’re interested in reading about all things writing, be sure to stop by this month’s issue of Generation Impact!

My good friend, Grace Williamson, and her inspirational team have done a superb job putting together a collection of articles, reviews, and tips for writers. She even includes a few quotes from yours truly on the Bulletin Board topic, Why Write?, along with thoughts from two other young writers – Tim Sweetman and Rachel Starr Thomson. You will also find an informative interview with author and writing mentor, Caleb Breakey.

If you haven’t visited the Generation Impact online magazine before, you may want to click through the archives. You’ll find it chock-full of interviews, articles, reviews, and more – by homeschool graduates, featuring homeschool graduates, and designed to encourage homeschool graduates (and others!) to impact their generation for Christ!

post Category: Personal post Comments (2) postFebruary 25, 2011

To follow Jesus
   that is all
      my heart is longing for;
To sacrifice
   at His call
      every desire and more;
To bear my cross
   though I fall
      feel shaken to the core;
To give my life
   ’tis so small
      for Him whom I adore.

Ever wish that you had a slew of techniques and tips that would enable you to communicate more effectively with an audience? Whether you find yourself in teaching settings on a regular basis, want to share something you’ve been learning with an inquisitive friend or relative, or are involved in more formal presentations, almost every one of us could benefit from improved speaking skills. Plus, you never know when you might find yourself in a setting that you never expected and wish that you were a more polished speaker!

That’s why I’m thrilled that my friend, Arlen Busenitz (who produced the Journey to Self Publishing CD with me), has put together a fabulous resource called, Become a Better Speaker in One Evening. The entire course is comprised of 6 easy-to-follow steps that include videos, audio files, and downloadable materials, all designed to help you become a better speaker fast! Arlen is one of the most practical and  insightful people I know, and his materials are chock-full of tips that will equip even the most reluctant public speaker to give interesting and effective presentations. I’ve been going through the steps on the webpage that is instantly accessible when you purchase the program, and I think it could even be used as a public speaking course for a student (or a group of students).

Communication – both written and verbal – is one of the most important skills my parents insisted that all of us kids develop. I am so grateful now for the ways that they helped me grow in this area, and I’m excited that Arlen has produced a resource that can serve as a tool to help many other people become better communicators as well!

[Note: Following is a short article that I wrote for the Homeschooling Teen Magazine last fall.]

A crowd of teachers eagerly took their places as the session got underway. I waited expectantly as one of the organizers of the event introduced me to the group. They had asked me to present a workshop on marketing and running a successful music studio. I was excited to share some of the things I’ve learned over the years. But I wasn’t prepared for the specific remarks of my colleague and how they would give me a whole new appreciation for the decision my parents made many years ago to home educate their children. His words still echo in my mind, “Natalie comes from a somewhat untraditional background…” (I’d heard that before!) “…and I think that’s what contributes largely to her fresh and creative approach.” (Wow, I’d never really thought of that!)

Pondering that statement over the last several months has led me to realize what a tremendous gift my parents gave me when they pulled me out of school to start our homeschool journey. Not that I always felt that way, mind you! Our first year of transition, in particular, was wrought with lots of frustration and tears. But as we learned to replace society’s educational model with a more biblical understanding of true education, a whole new world began to open up before us. Instead of being constrained to a classroom for hours at a time, life became our learning ground. I was free to explore areas of interest and pursue skills I wanted to develop.

In a recent interview with Kevin Swanson (another homeschool grad!) on Generations Radio, he shared a vivid analogy: those who are raised in our modern schooling system tend to approach education and life as a paint-by-number piece of art, whereas those who are raised outside the system are likened to a sculptor. In a paint-by-number, as you know, someone has already determined the final design and you – the artist – are just coloring in the spaces. There’s some room for artistic expression, but only insomuch as it falls within the parameters of the original designer’s intent. A sculptor, on the other hand, employs a host of tools and materials to create a unique work of art – limited only by his imagination and ability. Obviously these are generalizations, but I love the thought that a homeschool education can be the catalyst for ideas, discoveries, and approaches that might otherwise lie dormant in a tightly-structured, conformity-based classroom environment.

My favorite definition for creativity comes from CharacterFirst: “approaching a need, a task, or an idea from a new perspective.” In a homeschool environment, the opportunities to develop creativity are endless! Consider these needs: lunchtime meals, clean clothes, money for school curriculum. Or what about some daily tasks: practicing an instrument, doing a math lesson, cleaning the bathroom. And we could never exhaust a list of ideas: hosting a Bible study, organizing a field trip, creating a short film. One of the biggest advantages we have toward developing creativity in these areas is time. The average graduating high school senior will have spent almost 30,000 hours at school, plus even more on homework! When you consider that the recognized number of hours it takes to become an expert in a given field is approximately 10,000 you begin to realize the incredible potential that exists for homeschoolers…if we use our time wisely.

Ephesians 5:16 says that we should be, “Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.” The idea behind the word “redeeming” is that we spend our time on that which is profitable. In other words, we are trading in our time to get back something more valuable. You could contrast this with the opposite – squandering time, which is frivolously spending time on things that have no lasting value. With that in mind, I’d like to outline three ways that you can redeem the time by developing creativity in your life:

1. Spend time with the Creator. Proverbs 2:6 is one of my favorite verses, “For the LORD gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.” Whatever your questions, whatever your needs, whatever your problems, the answer is found in the Lord Jesus Christ. The more time you spend with the Lord, reading and studying His Word, the more you will be able to draw on His wisdom and creativity as situations arise in your life. We are promised “good success” if we meditate on the law of the Lord day and night and do all that is written in it (Joshua 1:8). Likewise, the man who delights in the law of the Lord and meditates on it day and night is said to prosper in all he does (Psalm 1:2-3). Talk about a return on your investment! Filling your heart and mind with the wisdom and knowledge and understanding of the Lord is the source from which the fountain of creativity springs forth!

2. Take time to think. Victor Hugo once said, “A man is not idle because he is absorbed in thought. There is a visible labor and there is an invisible labor.” Isn’t that great?! Whether due to busy schedules or hours wasted on mindless entertainment, there is precious little time given to just thinking. One of my favorite things to do is to make my way onto our deck late at night, gaze up at the stars, and just…think. Sometimes memorized Scriptures come to mind; sometimes I present questions to God; sometimes I ponder a difficult situation with a student and how I should address it; sometimes I reflect on attitudes or behaviors in my life of which I need to repent; sometimes I contemplate upcoming events or special occasions and what I can do to make them more meaningful and memorable; and so on. Another essential for me is my “idea book.” It’s just a plain spiral-bound notebook, but I use it to jot down thoughts and brainstorm about everything from goals for the year, to lesson plans for students, to book marketing strategies, to articles, and more. Society today undervalues just sitting and thinking because it is perceived as being unproductive. Quite the contrary! It is an essential underlying element that produces an even greater level of productivity.

3. Make creative plans and put them into action. There’s a certain amount of risk in being creative because you have to be willing to try something that you haven’t done before. I like to think of scenarios in terms of a “means justifies the end” philosophy. “Will the benefit derived from the planning, preparation, implementation, and evaluation of this project be worth it even if the endeavor itself is deemed unsuccessful?” Not only does this serve to bolster enthusiasm and diligence for the project, but it also offsets the discouragement that accompanies a failed venture. So put on your creative “thinking caps” and just give it a try: treat your family to a fancy lunchtime tea and scones, make your own set of flashcards and work with a sibling on math facts, invite a mature Christian to share their testimony and host a group of friends for fellowship and encouragement in their walk with the Lord. As you develop creativity, you will discover all sorts of ways to be a blessing to the people around you. Not to mention that you’ll always keep them guessing as to what you’ll come up with next!

Creativity is an amazing gift from the Lord, and homeschooling affords us the time and environment to develop it in our own lives. I’ve had to throw away my fair share of “paint-by-number” coloring sheets as the Lord has led me to re-think the customary way of doing things in society. It’s a little scary, but what an adventure! So, grab your block of marble (i.e. whatever needs, tasks, or ideas are facing you today) and start sculpting away. Let’s become everyday artists who fill people’s lives with creativity and cause them to marvel at the ingenuity of our Creator!

post Category: Personal post Comments (2) postJanuary 24, 2011

This God of Love
who penetrates the deepest heart of man;
From throne above
who executes his good eternal plan;
His ways are true
who constitutes the statutes of the land;
He makes us new
who sacrificed to give life from his hand;
His word is sent
who multiplies his children as the sand;
King of all men
who oversees the world at his command.