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Review of Come What May…the Book!

April 5, 2012 by natalie

After helping extensively with the promotion for Come What May several years ago, I was excited to find out recently about a new book that is a novelization of the movie. When I was contacted about posting a review of the book, I knew just who to get to help out – my sister, Noelle! She does book reviews for the fabulous Generation Impact, and she graciously agreed to read the book and write a review for the Pajama School blog. So, without further ado, here is her review:

come what may

Knowing very little about the book, I started Come What May by Peter Edward Forbes mostly hoping it would be at least a little interesting. Within the first few paragraphs I had already come to my conclusion – I was hooked! From the 1st chapter Mr. Forbes draws you into the life of Caleb Hogan, a college student intent on winning the upcoming moot court national competition.

Though I had no previous knowledge of moot court, or anything that goes with it, there was never a point where I felt lost or confused regarding the terms or processes involved. This was probably due to the fact that Mr. Forbes very seamlessly interwove any explanation needed without drawing away from the story itself.

Not only was it an informative and interesting story, (as well as unique), I also found myself increasingly intrigued by the world of moot court and the preparation those involved put into their arguments.

Come What May highlights the struggle each of us, as Christians, face to compromise our values and morals, and how even a small compromise can have far-reaching consequences.

Whether you’re interested in moot court, or simply looking for a good read, this is one book I would wholeheartedly recommend.

~Reviewed by Noelle Wickham

Filed Under: Resource Reviews

5 Tips for Presenting an Issue to Your Legislator in a Public Forum

February 27, 2012 by natalie

Tonight Dad and I attended the South Central Delegation Legislative Public Forum (who but someone in government could come up with a title like that? but I digress…). The forum we attended last session was primarily a few legislators giving an update on what was going on at the statehouse and then opening the floor for a brief time of questions and answers from the attendees. This forum was the complete opposite.

South Central Delegation Legislative Public Forum

A good hour and a half was devoted to allowing various citizens from the community to present issues and concerns to approximately a dozen legislators that comprised the panel. Upon arrival, each person was given the option of just signing in as an attendee or signing up to speak. Once the lists were turned in the presentations began. Each speaker was allotted three minutes. Even though I don’t have any issue of particular interest or concern to me right now, it was fascinating to listen to those who did make presentations. Even more fascinating was observing the mannerisms and approaches of each of the speakers and then watching to see how the legislators reacted to them. As I observed I jotted down notes on what seemed to garner the attention and interest of the panel. The result is this collection of 5 Tips for Presenting an Issue to Your Legislator in a Public Forum:

  1. Dress and speak professionally. In the course of attending many training seminars over the years one thing often rings out in my mind: dress to convey the importance of your message. Show that you are taking yourself, what you have to say, and the opportunity seriously. Others are more apt to do so, then, too.
  2. Know your issue. This should go without saying, but the people who seemed to have the greatest impact in the discussion were those who had specific bill numbers, dates the bills were being reviewed in committee or presented for a vote, hard facts and statistics to back up their claims, and excellent references.
  3. Clearly articulate what you want the legislators to do with the information you present. Anyone familiar with the political process knows that there are hundreds or even thousands of issues and bills that vie for the attention of those in office. Once you cite the bill number and when it will be coming up for review or vote, indicate your position and what you would like the legislator to do about it. For example: “When HB2319 arrives on the floor of the House next Thursday, I am opposed to it and I urge you to vote against it.”
  4. Adhere to the specified time limit. In my years of studying and learning to be a more effective public speaker I read one author whose premise was that if you can’t make your point in 30 seconds you won’t be able to make it in 30 minutes. Think clearly. Know what you want to say. And say it as succinctly as possible. No one on the panel or in the audience wants to hear you drone on about your personal family matter that is compelling you to take a side on some issue. On the other hand, don’t gloss over important information that will help the listener fully understand your position on the issue and why they should adopt the same. Don’t be afraid to use your time; but don’t force them to call in security to commandeer the mic from you either. Find a happy medium and you’ll have more friends for it!
  5. Prepare a handout to leave with the legislators outlining your key points and what action you’d like them to take. I assume this is incredibly helpful to those listening so that they can review the information later when they aren’t in a public forum. It will also free them up to give you their full attention and not feel the need to take detailed notes during the presentation. Plus, it shows that you care about the issue and have invested your time and energy to bring it to their attention in the most helpful way possible. Almost every legislator solicits and appreciates input from his or her constituents and finds it beneficial in framing their own position on a particular issue.

Both your content and manner of conduct can make a significant difference in a public presentation. I often think of Proverbs 18:21 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” You never know how far-reaching the impact of your words will be. It’s worth it to put in the effort to speak well.

Filed Under: A Lifetime of Learning, Political Involvement

Interview with Homeschool Graduate Arlen Busenitz Highlights Thoughts on Courtship and Dating

February 22, 2012 by natalie

Note: Following is an interview I conducted with homeschool graduate Arlen Busenitz for the Home Educating Family magazine. Check out the latest Spring 2012 issue for tons of great articles on a wide variety of topics!

Arlen BusenitzWhen did you begin homeschooling, and what did you think of it?
I was home schooled starting at kindergarten. It was a great experience. Mom kept us on a schedule, but gave us time to pursue other areas as well. I was interested in farming, so I spent extra time researching and writing papers on it. I also spent many hours outside working on our farm.

Did your parents do anything specific that helped cultivate an entrepreneurial spirit?
They encouraged me to pursue my ideas. Through high school I created a couple of computer games called “Catch” & “Paddle Ball.” Ever heard of them? They could have been the next Pac-man, but fizzled out before they got off the ground. J A successful person told me, “You will have to experience a number of failures before you succeed. The quicker you get the failures out of the way, the sooner you will succeed.”

Right after high school, my parents started selling vegetables at the farmer’s market. I cleared some space in the back of the pickup and hauled in 500 pounds of landscape rocks. People bought, and my first real business started. For two years I sold rocks and earned enough to help pay for college, my first car, and 21 sessions at the chiropractor. My parents did what all parents can do: encourage their kids in their areas of interest and give them space to pursue them.

You speak on a variety of different topics, including the importance of a balanced approach to dating and courtship. Could you share a few points on this topic that might be helpful for parents and young people approaching this stage of life?
I have observed the negatives of both casual dating and strict courtship. Numerous romantic flings can cause young people to give their heart away many times and enter marriage with regrets and baggage. On the flip side, strict courtship can also leave a path of broken hearts. I have seen deep hurts caused by pressure from strict rules, ending relationships unnecessarily, and well-meaning parents driving away legitimate suitors.

What’s the answer? Don’t follow a system, a book, or what everyone else is doing. Use wisdom and biblical principles. Every situation will look different. What’s best for 18-year olds may not be best for 27-year olds. Here are some tips I have found helpful:

  • Focus on building friendships.

You don’t have to date around to find out which personalities you click with. Build friendships with the opposite sex. Hang out with friends. In this safe environment you can discover what you want in a spouse.

  • Do not stir up love before its time.

Solomon mentioned this in Song of Solomon. This will solve 90+% of dating/courting problems. Giving your heart away too soon, stirring up desires in the other person you can’t fulfill, and talking about marriage prematurely will create additional heartache. This is not just a problem for casual dating. Numerous guys and girls have mentioned the overwhelming pressure of a strict courtship. It takes time to build a relationship without having to determine in the first month if you’re going to get married or not.

  • Make decisions out of wisdom, not fear, pride, or what others think.

I know of a case where a father would not let his 33-year old daughter ride to church with a Christian guy because a book said that was not a good idea. Use some wisdom. In the same way, just because every other 16-year old girl is going out Friday night does not mean it’s a wise idea. Every parent, daughter, and son should ask, “Am I doing what’s best for the relationship, or am I acting out of pride, selfishness, or fear of what others will think?”

  • Guard your heart

Don’t give your heart away to someone unless you are both positive you will get married. Let it go slowly. Many give away their heart repeatedly through casual dating. Don’t get serious too soon. Strict courtship has burned some of my friends because marriage plans were in the works too quickly.

  • Date only someone who is a potential spouse and break it off if you don’t see it going anywhere.

If you get romantically attached to someone whom you can’t or shouldn’t marry, you’ll both get hurt. In the same way, why stay in a relationship if one or both of you don’t see it working out?

  • Treat the opposite sex like you want your future spouse treated.

A common question is: “How far is too far?” How do you want another guy or girl to treat your future spouse? Do the same. Walk in wisdom. Honor God. Build character. Do this and you’ll successfully navigate the path through singleness and into marriage.

What other topics do you like to speak on?
Currently, I am focusing on two main topics. First, helping people overcome their fear of public speaking and equipping them to be better speakers. I do this through speaking, coaching, teaching classes, and writing.

Second, I help people Shrink the GapTM in their life. All of us have gaps between where we are and where we want to be. It could be with finances, relationships, time management, health, etc. After much research and experimentation I have found practical strategies that enable a person to Shrink the Gap in every area of life. I’ll be releasing more of these on my blog at ShrinktheGap.com.

Conversation MagicYou used to be shy as a child, but now you’ve given over 650 presentations in four different countries. What happened?
First, my parents “strongly encouraged” me to take a public speaking class and go through leadership training. Public speaking is a great way to break free from shyness. In the classes I teach, shy people are often the best speakers.

Second, I learned that shyness is a form of selfishness. When a shy person is standing in the corner not talking to anyone, they are thinking about themselves and their negative feelings. I coach people to get out and focus on other people. When you focus on making other people feel important and have a good time, you will break free from shyness.

Third, when I started selling rocks at the farmers market, I was making ten cents an hour. My selling skills and people skills were poor. I hit the local library and checked out dozens of books on people skills, selling, and conversation skills. I applied what I learned, sales took off, and I was able to make friends fast. Many of these concepts are in my book Conversation Magic: Improve Your Conversation Skills in One Evening.

What tips do you have for others who want to become more effective communicators?
Practice, Practice, Practice. If you’re a parent, train your children to look at others when talking. Have them give “off-the-cuff” speeches where they stand up and talk for one minute on a designated topic.

If you are over 18, join Toastmasters. There are thousands of clubs across the United States. Going to one would be a good field trip for a home school family (students younger than 18 can observe).

Check out Speakinginfo.com for lots of additional resources!

Filed Under: Courtship and Relationships, Especially For Parents, Interviews with Homeschoolers

Jesus as Our Model of Success

January 17, 2012 by natalie

“Behold, my servant shall act wisely, he shall be high and lifted up, and shall be exalted.”
Isaiah 52:13

The footnote for the word, “wisely” gives the alternate translation, “shall prosper.” The ESV Study Bible gives a further definition as “succeed at his task.” And the King James Version translates the phrase as, “deal prudently.”

The latter half of the verse reminds me of Jesus’ words in John 12:32, “And I, when I am lifted up from the earth, will draw all people to myself.”

Jesus was referring to His forthcoming death by crucifixion. In light of that and the above definitions, one could re-phrase the verse in Isaiah to read, “Behold, my servant, Jesus, shall prosper and succeed at his task – he shall be crucified.”

The irony is inescapable. The most torturous, painful, humiliating experience one could endure was also God’s means of lifting up and exalting His Son. And by surrendering to His Father’s design and will in this, Jesus achieved success.

How vastly different this model is from everything that seems right and true to our human way of thinking! How often do we avoid, rather than follow after, the very things that would truly make us prosperous and successful – not by the world’s standards, but by the fixed truth of God?

The message is clear in Scripture – God wants His people to be prosperous and successful. And so in Jesus He gave us the definition and model of it. Then Jesus even put it into words for us,

“If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will save it.”
Luke 9:23-24

Perhaps we should see pain not as a crushing blow from God, but as His means to lift us up; rejection not to shame us, but to exalt us; suffering not to sabotage our work, but to make us truly successful. And all of this to fix our eyes on Jesus who through the greatest suffering achieved the greatest success.

Filed Under: A Lifetime of Learning, Thought Provoking

A Year of Reading in Review – 2011

January 10, 2012 by natalie

At some point this past year it occurred to me that reading is good for my emotional well-being. For some reason I just feel happier if I am reading a good book. My all-time favorite is the Bible, and this past year I did a monthly rotation reading through Job, Ecclesiastes, and Song of Solomon. It was so rich, thought-provoking, and life-impacting! As if the everlasting, immutable Word of God could be anything but those things… 🙂 But I also love to read a variety of other books that draw on the experience, expertise, and wisdom of others in different areas. Here’s a list of books I read last year, along with a few of my thoughts on each one:

Madame Curie: A Biography
Eve Curie

A search for a new, engaging book to read during my Christmas and New Year’s break led me to the stocked shelves in my dad’s office. A tattered hardback with embossed lettering that read, “Madame Curie,” caught my eye. Not (I’m now embarrassed to say) because I recognized the name, but because I thought perhaps a good story was hidden within its pages. A brief perusal of the introduction and first chapter sufficiently convinced me of the artful excellence of the author, and it became my companion for the next couple of weeks.

It was surprisingly difficult to pull myself away from the bigger-than-life story of a woman I now recognize as one of the world’s most renowned scientists. In fact, this story did for me what no amount of curricula could accomplish growing up – it gave me an appreciation for the study of science! I am more convinced than ever that a curriculum comprised in large part of great books is one of the highest and most effective forms of education.

This extensive biography sketches a fascinating picture of the quiet, unassuming woman who, along with her husband, Pierre, is credited with the discovery of radium. Although she was the recipient of two Nobel Peace Prizes and numerous other awards and honors, the devoted scientist never became enamored with fame or notoriety. In fact, quite the contrary, as she herself expressed in her letters:

“I long for calmer days passed in a quiet place, where lectures will be forbidden and newspapermen persecuted…Always a hubbub. People are keeping us from work as much as they can. Now I have decided to be brave and I receive no visitors – but they disturb me just the same. Our life has been altogether spoiled by honors and fame.”

Numerous other humorous and thoughtful anecdotes are interwoven throughout the book, generously allowing readers an in depth view of this amazing woman. I was inspired in many ways by Madame Curie’s character and the unified vision and life work she shared with her husband. Even though there is no indication that she was a Christian, it’s clear that God used her to fill an incredible role in history.

The Persecutor
Sergei Kourdakov

After soliciting biography recommendations from my friends, this is one of the first that I was able to get my hands on (thanks to the generous loan from the referrer!). Her claim that it was a riveting story held true in every respect! Although I have read numerous accounts of World War II and post-war experiences, I think this is the first story I have read from the eyes of a member of the Russian police.

A man who had attained many of the most coveted honors in the Communist regime and was destined for a high seat of power nevertheless tells of the depravity and emptiness that compelled him to escape. His journey is a long one, with much terror and destruction left in his wake as he resists the pull of God on his life. And even as he fights for freedom – spiritually and physically – in a new land, he remains a fugitive – hunted by a relentless enemy.

Will-O’-The-Wisp
The Baroness Orczy

This short novel made its way home with Mom during one of her thrift store excursions. Noticing that it was written by The Baroness Orczy (author of the classic, The Scarlet Pimpernel), I was intrigued. Set on the coast of France in the early 1800’s the story follows the clandestine dealings of one Le Pere Ribot, his daughter, Follette, and an officer of His Majesty (a.k.a. Emperor Napoleon) as he tries in vain to pursue her affections. The not-altogether-unpredictable love story is redeemed in part by the excellent writing of The Baroness, but still falls easily under the category of “fluff” that provides a diversion from reality, but not much in the way of lasting value.

When People are Big and God is Small – Overcoming Peer Pressure, Codependency, and the Fear of Man
Edward T. Welch

This book was selected for our young ladies Bible study in the spring and was a wonderful tool for instruction in biblical principles and discussion with others over the areas covered. Whether you think you struggle with a fear of man versus a fear of God or not, I can pretty much guarantee that you’ll find convicting truths and practical applications that you can apply to your life. Dr. Welch helps readers dig much deeper than a lot of pop psychology seems to so that you can understand the real issues underlying your attitudes and reactions. He doesn’t shy away from some tough issues, but uses lots of illustrations, stories, and steps to help overcome sinful and destructive habits in our lives and relationships. I gleaned many valuable insights from this book that have already impacted my own life and opportunities I have to help others work through difficult situations. I know that will continue to prove to be the case as I refer back to it in the years to come.

Radical: Taking Back Your Faith from the American Dream
David Platt

One of my dearest friends first alerted me to this book in an e-mail, saying, “[it] is SOOOO good.” Imagine my surprise, then, when I walked upstairs later that evening and saw this very book resting on the dining room table! My sister had just finished reviewing it for a magazine and my mom was making her way through its pages. I quickly took the next place in line and was grateful when my turn to read it came around. After becoming the pastor of a mega-church at a young age, David was challenged to rethink nearly every element of how we “do church” in America. This led to a drastic restructuring of priorities in his life, his family, and his church. Now, with Radical, he challenges other American Christians to embrace a global vision for spreading the gospel of Jesus Christ. He posits that too often we pass over the “radical” commands of Jesus – like selling everything and giving the money to the poor, or going to the ends of the earth to share the gospel with unreached people, etc. – by countering that God doesn’t call everyone to do that. We forget that sometimes God does still call people to do just that. What’s more, God calls every Christian to make disciples of all nations. We should all be involved in sharing the gospel with people throughout the world in some context. Practical examples give inspiration, but ultimately the reader is challenged to adopt this new perspective and seek God for the particulars of how he can be involved in this global calling. I’m excited about the possibilities and look forward to seeing how God continues to bring growth in my life in this area!

Exposed: The Life and Thoughts of a Home School Graduate
Felicia Alvarez

This quick read is a peak into the life of a Southern California girl and her family’s journey in homeschooling. As a fellow homeschool grad, I was excited to compare my story with hers! We had much in common – trading our school room for the kitchen table, involvement in music, memorable travel experiences, teaching businesses, and more. The book is a mixture of Felicia’s reflections and thoughts, with short vignettes of actual experiences woven throughout.

The Family Daughter
Sarah Bryant

The author kindly sent me a copy of her book as a way of saying “thank you” for the assistance I gave her as she was working through the publication process. First off, I have to say that the book itself is beautiful! From the velvety texture of the cover to the artistic use of complementary fonts to the attractive layout of each chapter, this book goes above and beyond in its aesthetic appeal. When digesting the content of the book, it is perhaps most helpful to keep in mind the background perspective that Sarah succinctly lays out for the reader at the beginning of the book. While some might take issue with the specific application of the principles set forth, any young woman is sure to glean practical and beneficial ideas that can be implemented in her own life! I also appreciate the variety of quotes and additional resources referenced at the end of each chapter. The style of writing embodies a spirit of exhortation, and Sarah’s desire is obviously to encourage younger girls to have a heart for their families. They are the demographic that will probably be the most interested in and encouraged by it.

A Collection of Love Gifts
Helen Steiner Rice

This book of poems was a Valentine’s gift from some friends of mine. I had heard of Helen Steiner Rice, but didn’t know anything about her or her work. My friends included a biographical sketch with the book that helped me gain a greater appreciation for the woman who is considered “America’s beloved inspirational poet laureate.” There was nothing especially insightful about these poems, but they were sweet little reminders of God’s love.

Dug Down Deep: Unearthing What I Believe and Why It Matters
Joshua Harris

Ever since Josh Harris first announced that he was writing this book, I’ve had it on my wish list. I finally treated myself to an Amazon order one day and had this wonderful book read within a week! My introduction to Josh’s writing came years ago when I was a subscriber of his New Attitude magazine. I have read several of his other books and was especially interested in this one because it promised to be a closer look at his background and “the story of how [he] learned to dig into truth and build [his] life on a real knowledge of God.” I love the way he wove his own life experiences – the good, the bad, and the ugly – with foundational biblical doctrines. Even though I love to study church history and theology, even someone not previously in the habit of doing so would really enjoy the personable presentation of the variety of topics addressed in Dug Down Deep. This approach, along with Josh’s down-to-earth style of writing, makes the book an engaging read while also maintaining a depth of heart and thought in its rich content. I was challenged, convicted, and inspired!

In God’s Image After All: How Psychology Supports Biblical Creationism
Dr. Paul D. Ackerman

A short, but powerful collection of insights from a psychologist who was an avowed atheist. I heard Dr. Ackerman speak at an apologetics seminar and was very impressed by his presentation style and the things he shared. When I found out about this book that he wrote, I was eager to get my hands on a copy. I have never studied psychology, but I find it incredibly fascinating. The illustrations, research, and insights that Dr. Ackerman shares in this book only served to further my fascination with the field! Here are a few of his thoughts that I especially appreciated:

“We fallen creatures, far from being gods, are blown this way and that by subtle features in our surroundings of which we are not even aware.”

“Any ‘meaningful self’ we attribute to ourselves is dependent upon God. God has life in himself (John 5:26), but we have whatever life he chooses to give and maintain in us. We need God.”

“Confidence in contingency-design is an important and practical part of our faith in the kindness, mercy, and provision of our heavenly Father. If there is a problem, there must be a solution.”

This book gave me a greater appreciation for God as our Creator and the many aspects of His creation that function beneath the level of customary observation or awareness. It is both useful and awe-inspiring!

Talent to Treasure: Building a Profitable Music Teaching Business
Marcia K. Washburn

A second-generation piano teacher with many years of experience, Marcia Washburn sets out to help aspiring music teachers get started on the right foot. Many of the tips and principles she shares are ones that I had to learn the hard way! Although every teacher will have different approaches to the way they run their studio and do their teaching, Marcia’s book is sure to help new teachers think about issues that are all-too-often completely overlooked.

She covers a wide variety of topics, including: evaluating your motive for launching a music teaching business, preparing for the practical side of running a studio, establishing appropriate policies and practices, learning how to communicate effectively, and some of the nuts and bolts of what and how to teach. This is a great starting point for a teacher, and even experienced teachers will probably take away a few new ideas, tips, or insights that will help them become better teachers and business owners. I know I sure did!

The Messianic Character of American Education
Rousas John Rushdoony

An interest in education in general and American education in particular prompted me to travel through the pages of history contained in this eye-opening book. Rushdoony spends the bulk of the book sketching out the lives of those people most responsible for the establishment and development of our government education system as we know it today. This approach was incredibly effective as it allowed the reader to dig deeper than a mere collection of historical facts to unearth the philosophies and methods of these educational masterminds.

Perhaps the thing that struck me the most was how much the motivation of those highlighted in this book parallels what I have heard for years from leaders in the homeschool movement. Here’s an example: “Education, in its enlarged sense, is the disciplining, cultivating, and furnishing of the man, as a man, and for the particular position which he is to hold.” (Henry Barnard)

Or consider this description published in the NEA Journal in 1895, “The ideal school is an ideal community – an embryonic democracy. We should introduce into the school what we must have in the state, and this is democracy in its pure sense. The child is not in the school to learn, not in there for mere knowledge; but he is in there to live, to learn to live – not in preparation for life so much as real living. The pupil should in school learn to live. He should there learn to put himself into life. The teacher is the leader in this community life. Self-government is the only true government. A child should be taught to live for others. We are too apt to ignore the divinity of a child.”

The school was thus made the center of life, the training ground to prepare children to be servants of the State. Education was promoted as the savior that would enable society to become essentially a utopia. Pioneers in the homeschool movement understood this undergirding philosophy and how diametrically opposed it is to a Christian worldview where the Lord Jesus Christ is the center of our lives. God designed the family to be the primary transmitter of true knowledge as parents train their children to “love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might” (Deuteronomy 6:5).

Many home educators and government school educators have the same goal in mind – to train the whole child and be the primary influencer of his thoughts and behaviors. It’s obvious from Rushdoony’s extensive research and documentation that the latter are working intentionally and determinedly to accomplish their goal. It would behoove us, as Christians, to understand what’s really at stake and to work tirelessly to impart God’s ways to the next generation!

The Quest for Meekness and Quietness of Spirit
Matthew Henry

The title of this book immediately appealed to me. Who doesn’t want to embody a meek and quiet spirit? In case the desire is not already present, Matthew Henry spends the first half of the book painting an image of the nature and excellency of meekness and quietness of spirit. The more I read, the more eager I was to get to the application part where I was hoping the author would show me exactly how to attain these qualities in my own life. Even the style of writing itself seems to carry an aura of the meekness and quietness of spirit that is being discussed. It reminded me in some ways of John Bunyan’s much-loved “Pilgrim’s Progress” with the effortless and insightful interweaving of Scripture after Scripture to construct each point.

As one can imagine, the practical application didn’t consist of a neat “5-Steps to Meekness” approach. Instead, Henry exposed attitudes and behaviors that reveal a lack of meekness, challenging the reader to repent and seek meekness. Indeed, that is perhaps the thing that was most impressed upon my heart: meekness is not something to be attained, but something to be sought. “Seek ye the Lord, all ye meek of the earth; Seek meekness” (Zephaniah 2:3). The author comments, “Though they were meek, and were pronounced so by him that searches the heart, yet they must seek meekness.” There were many other nuggets of wisdom to be gleaned from the pages of this book and I find myself already turning back through the pages for reflection and assimilation into my own life.

Lord, Send Me (now Send Me, Lord Jesus)
Christina Grubb

A sweet friend of mine sent me this copy of her first published work of non-fiction – an account of her experiences serving as a missionary in India. It’s always exciting to get to know friends in a deeper way through their writing, and I appreciate Christina’s open and gracious spirit that comes through her writing. Any romanticized views of missionary life in India were quickly overshadowed by some of the struggles she faced. In particular, it was eye-opening to see how much the people you work with as fellow missionaries can impact your entire experience. For Christina, the impact was a less-than-positive one, eventually resulting in her return to America. It seems clear that God has given her a heart and passion for the people of India, though, so perhaps He will one day soon send her again, this time with more experience, discernment, and wisdom “under her belt.”

Choosing to SEE: A Journey of Struggle and Hope
Mary Beth Chapman

I remember hearing about this book almost as soon as it came out and have been eagerly anticipating reading it ever since. Having heard of the tragic accidental death of the Chapman’s little adopted Chinese daughter when it happened, I knew the Mary Beth’s story would be heartfelt and insightful. I was not disappointed on either count. Mary Beth’s style of writing is very real and personable. It has you laughing one minute, gasping the next, and then wiping tears from your eyes. But in it all, she points the reader continually to Jesus Christ and His sufficiency in every situation.

The aspect of the story that was mostly indelibly impressed upon my heart was the emotional openness that the Chapman’s exhibited, especially in regard to their son, Will, who was responsible for the accidental death of his little sister. They didn’t downplay it or sweep it under the rug, assuming he would get over it on his own. Instead they talked about it openly, encouraged the support and prayers of friends, and acknowledged how incredibly difficult it would be for him to get past the experience. In a day when so many Christians plaster on a smile and pretend like everything is okay, it was both refreshing and convicting to see the value in an emotional openness that is honest about our deep inner struggles. For in the vulnerability of this openness, we are also enabled to receive the comfort, love, and support we need from the Lord and His people.

Everyday Life in Ancient Rome
Lionel Casson

This book first intrigued me several years ago when I came across it while browsing the shelves of a local bookstore. My upcoming trip to Italy this summer was the impetus I needed to order it and work my way through it. As you read it, you are transported to the streets of the center of one of the most powerful empires the world has ever known. The author discusses a variety of topics and includes illustrations and quotes to make the ancient world come alive to the modern reader. There was a bit of redundancy between chapters, but I enjoyed the history gleaned from the book and made sure to jot down the places that I wanted to visit!

Journey of a Thousand Miles: My Story
Lang Lang with David Ritz

A fellow piano teacher recommended this autobiography of world famous pianist, Lang Lang, at a music teachers association meeting. It was a quick read, but wow was it fascinating! I had absolutely no idea the kind of dedication and work that lies behind some of the young prodigies that emerge on the world scene. According to Lang Lang, in China it is everything to be Number One. Propelled by his father’s obsessive drive and his mother’s enduring love, that’s the pianist that Lang Lang was destined to be ever since winning his first competition at the age of five: Number One.

As a piano teacher, it was interesting to read of the different personalities of Lang Lang’s teachers and how they impacted him – either positively or negatively. Even in the cruel, critical world of competitive piano playing, Lang Lang blossomed and enjoyed music the most when his teacher, while highly qualified, was encouraging and cared about him as a person. Even though Lang Lang suffered at times because of his father’s indefatigable pressure to be Number One, I appreciated his desire to honor him and reconcile their differences. He also acknowledges that he wouldn’t be who he is today were it not for his father. Lang Lang’s story paints a vivid picture of what it looks like to be wholly devoted to a cause. Even though I love playing the piano, I am mindful that ultimately my cause is Jesus Christ. I am inspired to make my devotion to Him more of a living reality every day.

Preparing to Be a Help Meet
Debi Pearl

I don’t even remember what prompted me to pick this book up to skim through it one night because I don’t usually read marriage-centered books, but I was immediately captivated. So much so that I ended up staying up well into the night reading through almost the whole book. As my sisters and I traveled out of town the following day, I read them a chapter and other portions of the book that I found particularly inspiring. Even though I question some of the author’s points, I finished the book feeling both a renewed anticipation at the prospect of marriage and a vision for using the single years I have to fully invest myself in the work the Lord has given me to do. Perhaps more than anything, Mrs. Pearl’s insights and stories have compelled me to pray more faithfully for the guys in my life, upholding them before the Lord as a sister who wants to see them rise up to be godly husbands, fathers, and leaders in the world.

Just Do Something: A Liberating Approach to Finding God’s Will or How to Make a Decision Without Dreams, Visions, Fleeces, Open Doors, Random Bible Verses, Casting Lots, Liver Shivers, Writing in the Sky, etc.
Kevin DeYoung

Three friends and I read this book aloud together as we traveled through Italy this summer. To be honest, for the first four chapters I was appalled at the statements the author was making. They seemed to fly in the face of everything I’ve ever believed about praying and seeking God’s will for important – and even not-so-important – life decisions. But as we read chapter five, the proverbial light bulb came on in my mind. In reality, Mr. DeYoung was advocating a biblical truth that I believe with all my heart, but he applied it to this topic of following the will of God in a way that was quite enlightening. The truth? It’s neatly summed up in Matthew 6:33, “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Instead of defining the will of God by the external path we take in life, it is more biblical to pursue the will of God as a relationship with Him through Jesus Christ that transcends every choice we make. Rather than being caught up in making the “right” decision, we should invest our time and energy into seeking the Lord with all our heart, knowing that to the extent that our relationship with Him is right, the path we take in life will also be right.

Bonhoeffer: Pastor, Martyr, Prophet, Spy
Eric Metaxas

A friend of mine was reading this book and kept expressing how much he loved it, so as soon as he finished I was eager to read it for myself. I was not disappointed! This is a masterfully written biography of arguably one of the most important Christian thinkers/writers/activists during World War II. The author’s tendency to reference future events sometimes seemed like a bit of a spoiler, but I can appreciate what a monumental task it is to weave so much information about the subject, his family, and his time in history into a cohesive and captivating story. I loved reading more about Bonhoeffer’s early family life, and, as a musician myself, it was neat to read of his appreciation for the arts and music. Bonhoeffer’s views and words have often been taken out of context over the years, as Mr. Metaxas makes clear. Even though it seems like sometimes the picture he paints of Bonhoeffer is a larger-than-life image, I thoroughly enjoyed reading much of Bonhoeffer’s original writings and seeing the depth of thought and biblical analysis that he put into understanding what was going on in the world and determining how to respond to it. It’s a bit lengthy, but this is one of my favorite of Bonhoeffer’s quotes from the book:

“‘Be wise as serpents and innocent as doves’ is a saying of Jesus (Matt. 10:16). As with all of his sayings, it is he himself who interprets it. No one can look at God and at the reality of the world with undivided gaze as long as God and the world are torn apart. Despite all efforts to prevent it the eyes still wander from one to the other. Only because there is one place where God and the reality of the world are reconciled with each other, at which God and humanity have become one, is it possible there and there alone to fix one’s eyes on God and the world together at the same time. This place does not lie somewhere beyond reality in the realm of ideas. It lies in the midst of history as a divine miracle. It lies in Jesus Christ the reconciler of the world.”

When a Man’s a Man
Harold Bell Wright

A quick, fiction read, this story is set in the Old West and extols the virtue of true manhood and womanhood. The context is a mysterious stranger who shows up to work at an Arizona ranch and continually leaves the more experienced hands astounded at his willingness to take on the most difficult exploits for the sake of proving his own character. The truth about his past and his real identity is gradually exposed, but not before he is forced to endure the hardest test of all – sacrificing his own reputation for the sake of those he aims to honor and protect.

This Great Salvation
Robin Boisvert and C.J. Mahaney

This brief study was the selection for a fall Bible study in which one of my sisters and I participated. The authors do a good job of using personal illustrations, biblical insights, and a variety of quotes to cover the topic of justification. Chapter titles include: This Great Salvation, Does Anyone Believe in Sin?, The Holiness of God, The Wrath of God, Justified by Christ, and The Fruits of Justification. Each chapter concludes with a list of discussion questions, and there are several additional study suggestions within each chapter for those who want to dig a little deeper into each topic that is covered.

My Life with the Great Pianists
Franz Mohr with Edith Schaeffer

This book is a natural appeal for pianists, but I think it would be equally inspirational for anyone who is devoted to maximizing their impact in their given field for the glory of Jesus Christ. Some of the finer details about pianos and tuning may be lost on the non-musical reader, but the real message from this concert technician is how one person, by being skillful in their field, can gain an audience with many to make an eternal investment in their lives. I was reminded often of Proverbs 22:29, “Do you see a man skillful in his work? He will stand before kings; he will not stand before obscure men.” I loved the little anecdotes from Mr. Mohr’s interaction with pianists Horowitz, Rubinstein, Cliburn, Gould, and others, and I came away from the book with an even greater appreciation for the beauty of this instrument – the piano – that occupies so much of my life!

Crazy Love: Overwhelmed by a Relentless God
Francis Chan with Danae Yankoski

I confess that I put off reading this book for quite a while because there was such a craze surrounding it that I was reluctant to jump on the bandwagon. Nevertheless, when a friend gave me her copy to borrow, I couldn’t resist. J The book was a challenging parallel to many of the things that God has been impressing on my heart this year. In a nutshell, it could probably be described as an extension of the response of Simon Peter, James, and John when Jesus called them to exchange their fishing trade to become fishers of men – “they left everything and followed him” (Luke 5:11). So, too, should be the response of every one of us when Jesus calls us to follow Him.

It’s Not That Complicated: How to Relate to Guys in a Healthy, Sane, and Biblical Way
Anna Sofia & Elizabeth Botkin

My friend sat down across the table from me at a local restaurant. We exchanged a few pleasantries before I broached the subject that had prompted the day’s lunch meeting. “How is the situation with your guy friend going?” She looked at me, raised her eyebrows, and began, “Well…it’s complicated.” My mind immediately drifted to the ingeniously titled new book by sisters Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin: “It’s Not That Complicated.” I hadn’t read the book yet, but by the end of our lengthy conversation – one of many I have had this year with various friends going through relationship challenges – I couldn’t help but wonder, “What world are they living in?!” My own previously-held view of uncomplicated relationships took quite a beating this year, so I was eager to get my hands on a copy of this new book and find out what the authors had to say.

Anna Sofia and Elizabeth are just 25 and 23 years-old, but they write with the wisdom and maturity that can only be gleaned from hours of studying Scripture and its application to life. They have an acute sense of cultural influences and address those influences with both wit and biblical truth. I especially appreciate their emphasis on cultivating the right attitudes and desires in our own hearts as a basis for maintaining appropriate and virtuous behavior toward the guys in our lives. Along with this is the essential truth that our hearts are deceitful and wicked, with no hope of righteousness apart from Jesus Christ. Even though the authors’ perspectives will resonate most with those who come from stable Christian families, I think any young woman will be encouraged and inspired toward godly relationships if she reads this book with an open mind and a teachable heart. Since I interact quite a bit with girls from non-Christian families and/or rough past relationships, I really appreciated this point:

“Some girls fear that they will have permanent scars from mistakes they have made. They fear that part of them is gone and they can never be made whole again. But the concept of inner purity deals more with the present state of the heart, the mind, and the affections than it does with the past. What we need to be doing is developing a state of heart and mind that is self-controlled and faithful to one man. It’s never too late to repent and do what’s right.”

Another helpful feature of “It’s Not That Complicated” is the candid commentary offered by various guys throughout the book. It’s encouraging to know that there are young men passionately serving the Lord and committed to pursuing young women who are doing likewise. I hope and pray that this book will serve as another excellent tool to inspire young people everywhere to keep their eyes on Jesus Christ, build strong friendships, and be “always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain” (1 Corinthians 15:58).

A Gospel Primer for Christians: Learning to See the Glories of God’s Love
Milton Vincent

One of our Adventures In Character (AIC) staff members recommended this book to me after we discussed our mutual vision for make the Gospel our emphasis in next year’s program. It is a short, but rich and power-packed 97 pages. It is best summed up in the author’s own words in his introduction: “God did not give us His gospel just so we could embrace it and be converted. Actually, He offers it to us every day as a gift that keeps on giving to us everything we need for life and godliness.” This is something I am coming to realize and appreciate more fully every day!

Read A Year of Reading in Review from previous years: 2007 | 2008 | 2009 | 2010

Filed Under: A Lifetime of Learning, Personal, Resource Reviews

Two Christmas Poems

December 25, 2011 by natalie

Christmas: God’s Mystery Revealed!

The stage was set ere time began,
A perfect script conceived in heaven;
Events unfolding throughout history,
Revealing the clues of God’s great mystery.

A beautiful garden, man’s perfect location,
Forbidden fruit, a serpent’s deception;
Then entered the stage the curse of sin on all flesh,
But then the promise that one day its head would be crushed.

Time swiftly passed; the years rolled away;
A man named Abram was called to the stage;
Blessing bestowed upon him by God’s undeserved mercy,
All the world would be blessed through the seed of his family.

Then Isaac, then Jacob, assumed his role,
And God said, “Now you shall be called, ‘Israel.’”
“Be fruitful and multiply,” He commanded,
So the blessing from generation to generation was handed.

Sibling rivalry ran in the hearts of twelve brothers;
And Joseph was sold as a slave by the others;
Into Egypt he came; to great power he rose,
Sent by God to preserve the people He chose.

Though great were his deeds and many were saved,
There arose a new king who knew not Joseph’s name.
“Let the burdens be heavier, make them serve us!” he cried;
But the people of Israel only multiplied.

Now off in a corner the plot develops;
A bush, seen by Moses, that a fire envelops;
From the midst, a voice, that proclaims, “I AM”;
Then, “My people cry out and redemption is my plan.”

Ten plagues wrought destruction till Egypt was ravaged,
But Israel escapes, the lamb’s blood their passage –
Applied to the sides and the top of the door,
So the Angel of Death passed over, and God brought them forth.

Miracle of miracles the Red Sea was divided,
The way of salvation supernaturally provided;
Now safe and secure, from the mountain was spoken
A covenant of promise that could never be broken.

God’s treasured possession, redeemed at great cost;
To obey would bring blessing, to rebel – great loss;
With heart, soul, and might, their love was His desire,
And to teach to their children the commands He required.

This the point of their failure, for once they were gone,
their children knew not God, nor the works He had done;
Abandoning faith, to false gods they bowed down,
God’s anger provoked, but His patience wore on.

Again the sands of time descended,
New clues emerged, the mystery extended;
A valiant man emerged on the scene,
David – a shepherd, a warrior, a king.

Forever established his throne would be,
The promise declared to David and his seed;
Again words of blessing if Israel would but obey;
Instead the rebellious bride wandered, gave her heart away.

Time after time in compassion God sent
A host of His messengers, but Israel would not repent;
Masterfully scripted, now the part she must play,
But woe to the villain who has entered the stage!

Babylon the Great in pomp and pride,
The bearer of wrath with her arrogant stride;
Fire and sword ruled the day,
Till she emerged triumphant – carried God’s people away.

In the midst of captivity a remnant remained,
Keeping God’s Word, proclaiming His Name;
His promise rang out, “I’ll come dwell in your midst”;
Be faithful, be watchful, and the truth you’ll not miss.

Then the curtain was closed, the stage grew dim,
But the faithful ones still waited for Him;
A promised deliverer would come, they knew,
But the secret was kept until Act Two.

Splitting the silence, word from above!
Not in royal grandeur, but a whisper of love;
Favored one of God, virgin Mary to conceive and bear
Son of the Most High, the promised deliverer.

A shocking revelation, but wait, what’s this?
The throne of David His father will now be His!
A kingdom set up to endure forever,
Over the house of Jacob He – the eternal Ruler.

Unassuming birth, a small town, fulfillment of prophecy,
Short time later brought to the temple was He,
Where Simeon – devout and filled with the Spirit,
Saw Jesus; at once, the mystery – he knew it!

Into the world the answer had come;
God alone in human flesh could make all people one;
Those who were Gentiles at times in the past
Were welcomed into the promise at last.

Though once far off and dead in sin,
The blood of the Lamb brought redemption again;
Applied to men’s hearts by God’s grace alone,
Faith freely given; not by works of our own.

The inheritance now is ours to claim,
Because by adoption we bear Jesus’ Name;
He purchased for us what could never be earned –
A home in heaven, forever preserved.

Not only in this life, but for all eternity
His chosen people, a royal priesthood are we,
Proclaiming His greatness, now we have light –
marvelous, brilliant, gloriously bright!

For ages and generations the clues have been given;
It’s clear that the answer is no longer hidden;
To the world God has fully made known His mystery,
which is Christ in you – the hope of glory!

©2008 Natalie Wickham

Corresponding Scripture passages:
1. Isaiah 46:9-10
2. Genesis 3:14-15 (4004 B.C.)
3. Genesis 12:1-3 (1921 B.C.)
4. Genesis 35:9-12 (1732 B.C.)
5. Genesis 37-45 (1728 B.C.)
6. Exodus 1:8-12 (1635 B.C.)
7. Exodus 3:1-10 (1491 B.C.)
8. Exodus 11-13 (1491 B.C.)
9. Exodus 14, 19:3-6 (1491 B.C.)
10. Deuteronomy 6:4-7 (1491 B.C.)
11. Judges 2:10-12 (1409 B.C.)
12. 2 Samuel 7 (1048 B.C.)
13. Psalm 81:8-12 (1048-606 B.C.)
14. 2 Chronicles 36 (606 B.C.)
15. 2 Chronicles 36 (606 B.C.)
16. Zechariah 2:10-13 (520 B.C.)
17. 400 years between the Old and New Testaments
18. Luke 1:26-30 (1 B.C.)
19. Luke 1:26-30 (1 B.C.)
20. Luke 2
21. Ephesians 2
22. Ephesians 2
23. 1 Peter 1-2
24. 1 Peter 1-2
25. Colossians 1

Christmas is Here

Christmas is here.
Fresh snow has fallen.
Sunshine breaks forth.
God’s blessings abound.

Gifts under trees.
Food in the oven.
Laughter and mirth.
Good friends all around.

Music in ears.
True hope is given.
Baby is born.
A glorious sound.

God is now near.
Mystery from heaven.
Light to dark earth.
Wise words that astound.

Insight appears.
Joy in small children.
Gift of great worth.
When Jesus is found.

©2007 Natalie Wickham

Filed Under: Poems

Asking the Right Why

December 13, 2011 by natalie

In reading Philippians 2 this morning, I am struck by an irony. Many people question why God allows so much pain and suffering in the world. Perhaps the more pertinent question is: Why on earth would God willingly and specifically choose the most painful and shameful method of torture and death for Himself? He could have easily ordained something far less excruciating and we would have never known…

“Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.”
~Philippians 2:5-8

What incomprehensible humility and love!

Filed Under: A Lifetime of Learning, Personal

Giving Up

December 12, 2011 by natalie

There were a lot of things on my mind this morning when I sat down to spend time in the Word. They were very distracting, and it took almost an hour to get through the first four chapters of Ephesians. But the Lord has taught me much about persevering in the Word so that He can use it to effectively cleanse and renew my mind.

My attention shifted immediately when I read Ephesians 5:1-2:

“Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.”

It’s not an unfamiliar concept, but just try to wrap your mind around being an imitator of God! What a daunting, yet awesome, instructive. Can we really even comprehend what that would look like? If all we had was verse one, it would probably be a lost cause. I’m sure that’s why God graciously included verse two. 🙂

The word “imitate” comes from the Latin “imitatus,” meaning, “to copy.” It is akin to the base of “imago.” We know from Colossians 1:15 that Jesus is “the image of the invisible God.” Thus, verse two encapsulates in Jesus Christ what it looks like for a man to imitate God. In love He gave Himself up for us as a sacrifice to God. The essence of us imitating God is the same – to give ourselves up for others as a sacrifice to God.

Paul’s admonition in Romans 12:1 to “present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God…” is brought even more to life in light of these two verses in Ephesians. If we ever wonder what it means to be a living sacrifice, the answer is seen in the life and ministry of Jesus.

If we would be imitators of God, it is manifested in giving up ourselves for others. What a great many opportunities this opens up to present an offering and living sacrifice to God every single day!

Filed Under: A Lifetime of Learning, Personal

Let’s Be Disagreeable

December 8, 2011 by natalie

As I finished reading the book of Acts this morning, something suddenly dawned on me. In particular, the following verse where the Jews in Rome are speaking to Paul brought a very important realization to light:

“But we desire to hear from you what your views are, for with regard to this sect we know that everywhere it is spoken against.”
Acts 28:22

Most, if not all, of Paul’s opportunities to share his testimony and the gospel of Jesus Christ came from those who opposed and/or disagreed with him.

It occurs to me that our American culture makes a god of peace by promoting agreement and tolerance, the effect of which is to silence those who would speak the truth of Jesus Christ – the only One in whom real and lasting peace with God may be found. Most Christians, including myself, cow to this pressure and go to great pains to procure acceptance and agreement from others.

How many opportunities have been lost because I have shied away from the very opposition and disagreement that could serve as a platform from which to openly proclaim the gospel of Jesus Christ?

Filed Under: A Lifetime of Learning, Personal, Thought Provoking

The Beautiful Word

December 7, 2011 by natalie

Oh, the beauty to behold
in words eternal God has told,
writ down through time by men of old
that we might see His plan unfold!
Oh, the glory He revealed
that we might be redeemed and healed,
pierced by the sword His hand did wield
then by His Spirit cleansed and sealed.

Filed Under: Poems

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